Jonah Lesson 5 - Part 2

A Godly Pattern for Dealing with Anger

5.  Anyone dealing with an anger problem should take the following steps:

a.  Acknowledge that you have a problem.  (Gal. 5:13-26, focusing on verses 13 and 14)

(i)   Admit to having an anger problem or a spirit of anger.  Do you really want to live as God desires?  Do you truly want to be self-controlled, and desire to love and serve others.

(ii)  Acknowledging that you have a problem is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength.

b.  Confess this sin to God in prayer.

(i)   Acknowledge that anger hinders the work that God wants you to do.

(ii)  Confess pent up anger from both the past and the present.  (I John 1:9)

(iii) Realize that the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.  (James 1:19, 20)

c.  Repentance and redirection.

(i)   Repent (or turn away from) the anger you have been harboring.  (Luke 13:5; Acts 8:22; Rom. 2:4)

(ii)  Renew that decision every day, and commit each day to the Lord.  (James 4:7)

(iii) Allow Christ to live in and through you.  (James 4:8-10)

(iv) Begin scripture memorization, especially using verses that deal with your particular situation.  You might want to begin with I Corinthians 13:4-7.

d.  Remember that you are in a spiritual warfare.  (II Corinthians 10:3-7) 

(i)   Put on the whole armor of God.  (Eph. 6:10-18)

(ii)  Realize that our pride stands in the way of overcoming anger.  (Phil. 2:3; James 4:6; Prov. 28:25)    

(iii) Understand that God wants us to deal with others in a gentle manner.  (Prov. 14:29)

(iii) Identify every hidden sin that has a stronghold on your life.  (I John 2:16)

(v)  Give these sins to God and ask Him to help you overcome them.  Then replace them with the word of truth.

(vi) Recognize Satan's lies.

1.  He deserved it.  (I Cor. 3:18)

2.  I was so hurt by him.  I need to get back at him.  (Rom. 12:19)

3.  I can't help it.  (I Cor. 4:6, 7; Mark 7:21, 22)

4.  I don't have a problem.  (Rom. 12:3)

5.  I have always been that way.  (Prov. 16:5)

6.  My parents were that way.  (Prov. 23:13)

7.  It's not that bad.  (Rom. 1:22, 29, 30; Prov. 12:15)

8.  My anger is better than it used to be.  (Prov. 12:15)

e.  Put away the old habits, and replace them with actions that are pleasing to God.

(i)   Replace your anger with acts of kindness.  (Eph. 4:31, 32)

(ii)  Don't focus on what shouldn't be done, but on what should be.  (Eph. 5:1, 2)

(iii) Write down a few things you can do for someone who you have wounded, and then do them.

(iv) Resolve to speak kind words with pure motives.  (Colossians 3:12, 13)

f.  Resolve anger issues right away.

(i)   Never allow feelings of anger towards anyone go unresolved.  (Rom. 12:17, 18)

(ii)  Do not go to bed angry with your spouse, your children, or others.  (Eph. 4:26)

6.  I will end with a story that deals with the subject matter for this lesson.  A man and his wife had a pretty strong argument one evening that intermittently lasted over several hours.  Finally, the man's wife clammed up and would not speak to the man.  When they went to bed, he asked her to make sure he got up in time to catch an 8 o'clock flight.  The next morning, the man woke up at 8:30 and realized he had missed the flight.  On the night stand next to his bed was a note that read, "Don't forget to get up in time to catch your flight!"  This story, though funny, makes Ephesians 4:26 all the more important.




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